As civilization ripened in the beginning, it was widely accepted that women were made inferior to men.  There were no problems with that.  Women were decorations that gave men aura of authority, control and power.  ‘Twas the norm back then; but, in the late 18^th century, as my reading would put it, that practice started to become obsolete.  Women began to clamor for equality.  They marched on the streets, shouted in vain eventhough they weren’t aware if their wailing would be heard.  Of course, that was the history.  We all knew what happened since then.  The campaign to liberalize women was so overwhelming that the world had evolved according to what women had always wanted, always dreamt of.  Between the sexes, no one was considered more valuable and contributory than the other.  They were both taken and mingled in every society’s success – with so much parity.  In fact, it was believed that in every woman’s success, there would be a man in the house - and I just didn’t like to mention the sad contrary.  I never ever believed that a woman was always behind a man’s failure!  That was the greatest lie that the world had ever said!

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Look at this perfect couple I know (and maybe you know too).  Their relationship gives a big clue to what I call relationship compensation.  There is no contest in everything they do.  When one shines, the other doesn’t like to shine.  No one dares to outmatch the other.  They collectively give reasons and solutions to individual faults and they don’t consider that unfair.  They always reach out to problems together, hand in hand – never wanting to let go of the other in times of great need.  They, in fact, always instill the sense of justice in their relationship because for them life has no place for insincerity.  They view relationship as an end-to-end equation that will keep bouncing once resolved and will lead to other more computation challenges.   

So, I don’t exactly understand when, in a marital or common-law partnership, one of the spouses roots to be the underdog?  Okay, if that will just be for “dramatic” purposes, I will categorize it as a relationship spice; but otherwise, it is really annoying to think about.  I beg to disagree if some will tell me that playing underdog is an alternative or additional motivation for the relationship to grow.  It is an abstract (even absurd) belief or concern.  I view it as just self-gratification and it lacks rationality. Being an underdog?  Really?  It’s pathetic because it is only centered in one persona.  A relationship is a partnership and both spouses must actually be compensated by themselves.  In that, they surely will project grace and all the positive values to say the least.

Let this writing of mine challenge all the couples in the world to think more about the dynamics of relationship compensation.  I have given you the simplest factor.  Or maybe some more little hint from this question: do you find it fair that one of you is enjoying a complete career or life bliss?  If you take a few steps back because you are startled, then I say that there is a sheer speck of doubt that you believe in relationship compensation.  I hope I am not coining a phrase this time. 

Love you, perfect couple!  I am totally awed about the story that has been told in that luxurious car of an upcoming perfect couple.  And - all of you out there - if you wish to know these couples, let me inform you with bells on!  Indeed, perfection sees no end, huh?