L-O-V-E  has four letters and a powerful word in the dictionary. Love can do many things. It can give us an inspiration or destruction. There are people whom you can’t imagine what they’re capable of doing, in the name of love. Lucky and blessed are those who love and be loved in return. We cannot expect or ask someone to love us back. Reality bites and yes, it is happening. It is difficult to find someone whom you’ll find connection with, will accept and love you for who and what you are. Soul mate or true love is just a fairytale for some people who never experienced or failed to be loved in return. I must say, that true love and/or soul mate comes just once in a blue moon. So, if you found one, don’t let him/her go… hold him/her very close to your heart and treasure the moment together.

Sometimes, we think about changing our negative attitudes because of love. But you should not impose him/her to change for you because he/she might disagree or maybe disguise his/her true personality just to please you. If he/she wants to change, he/she would do it right away, you don’t need to ask for it. Once we truly love someone, we realize that we need to change to become a better person and to keep him/her in a relationship. If he/she failed to realize that… then, that is a problem.

Many people ask this question: “How will you know, if he or she is the ONE for you?” The answer is so simple but sometimes we made simple things very complicated. If you feel and think that you are happy to be with him/her, wanna spend the rest of your life with him/her, your life is complete because of him/her, etc and he/she feels the same way, then those are few of many signs that you are really made for each other. Sometimes, marriage is not a guarantee that you've finally chose "the right one" for you. Love can be deceiving at times, because you will feel it and then... when you wake up the next day.. You would not feel it anymore. As the song goes.. sometimes LOVE is not enough in a relationship. There must be friendship, respect, openness, acceptance, patience and trust, too.

Another thing is “effort” in a relationship. Does he/she make efforts to have your relationship work? Effort plus quality time together in a relationship are also very crucial. Does he/she have an initiative to do something for you? An initiative to be in a right place and time. Does he/she ever get late or cancel any date without prior notice in advance? You better think twice before falling in love. Who said we cannot train or teach our heart to love the right person? We surely can, we are just blinded at times because we are so in love. Love is a decision. Because, we have our own standards or basis as to what kind of person we're going to love. It means we are aware. We cannot love someone without any reason at all.

To answer the question, if he/she is really meant for you, the answer lies within your heart and mind. You will just feel something different like magic that is beyond words could ever exactly explain how you both feel. You are both compatible with many things such as food, sports, hobbies, perspectives in life, dreams, family and God centered point of views, etc. Learning to acknowledge his/her strengths and accepting his/her weaknesses. A good communication in any relationship is vital. And we must remember that love is like a two way street, it must be give and take to have a long lasting relationship. Above all, we must seek the Lord’s guidance and ask His blessings through daily and habitual prayers to direct us to the RIGHT PATH, with the RIGHT PERSON in a RIGHT TIME.

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Today is December 14, 2009, it is the 348th day of the year (349th in leap years) in the Gregorian calendar. There are 17 days remaining until the end of the year. It is nine (9) days more before Christmas. People are busy about buying stuff in preparation of this coming holiday season. Family, relatives and friends will be gathering together to celebrate this once in a year holy event.

I remember when I was still a child, the happiest days of my life were my birthday,  Christmas and New year. For obvious and common reasons for children and maybe some adults, too. In our country (Philippines), we are preparing for Christmas and New year as early as September because of the word "ber" (at the end of Septem) which means the coming succeeding months will all end in "ber" and, to us, that sounds pretty much of Christmas as it is celebrated in "DecemBER". We are so excited preparing early because we don't wanna miss something on our list like gift giving, to remind family and relatives to spend Christmas with us, friends to invite, god children (in tagalog-"inaanak"), the Christmas menu that will be served, Christmas decorations, our clothes to wear on that special day, listed activities/itineraries before Christmas, The nine Christmas dawn masses (in tagalog-simbang gabi: a Filipino tradition) and many more. Christmas is around the corner.

December 25 is THE BIRTH OF OUR DEAR LORD AND SAVIOR JESUS CHRIST. We must not forget about HIM. Let's count our blessings and pray. Christmas is about giving unselfish love, forgiveness and asking for forgiveness, it is giving yourself to others by serving and loving others, our neighbors as Christian without even asking any in return.. which I strongly believe is the TRUE MEANING of Christmas.

Have yourself a loving and blessed Christmas!

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My sweetheart loves me so much and he always show it by keeping his promises to me. He always find time to be with me during weekends and holidays. He always make sure to spend every dinner with me after work. And if he cannot, he will inform me that he's going out with friends. But he still make sure to call or send me messages during his time with friends to check if how am I spending my "me time" at home (which is everyday). He hangs out with friends once or twice a week only to have beers together and discuss about their fantasy football or baseball. He goes to work before seven in the morning and will go home at four o' clock in the afternoon.  

   One day morning, I was curious about him. I looked at his laptop and began to turn it on. I asked myself "What am I doing?". But then, the naughty side of me wondered that he might hiding something from me. I was really nervous to invade his privacy but I only wanna know if he's really sincere about his words and actions on me. It was easy to open his email accounts and other stuff because he saved his password. Then, I logged in to his facebook account... I saw a young lady there about 23 years old saying hi to him, with flirty pictures of her like seducing him. I was so sure that he did not check his facebook acccount that day because he was busy. I deleted the message and began to explore the identity of that girl. I copied her email address and checked on friendster and even google her name. I found out that this girl is a teacher from the Philippines. They became friends via dating site which made me paranoid. He visited this girl before in the Philippines. I also caught the same girl sending messages thru yahoo messenger.  

   I made a plan so this young girl will stop flirting with my sweetheart. I went online to my facebook account to send her a friend request there. The following day, she accepted it. I asked her to be my neighbor (online) on Farmville and Yoville (famous online games on Facebook). But she was not always online. I went back to my sweetie's facebook account to check if she's posting a flirty message again to him. I was surprised she has never updated her status there (laughs). I just laughed and smile that day. I began to check his profile pictures and I felt so guilty that I saw my two pictures posted there. I thought I was not that important to him. I was really wrong... I was just paranoid. Or maybe I am just afraid of losing him. We sometimes doubt our loved-ones' feelings on us but did we ask ourselves if we truly love them? I felt like I was slapped on my face because I was the one loving him less. Such paranoia should never happened for he is a loving and caring man. It is so unfair not to trust him. I hated myself for spying on him.

   There is one quote that inspire me that day from my favorite author, Helen Keller. "When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us."

   I was afraid of losing him but that fear has something to do with my past. I must let go of it so I could continue to live my life of happiness with him. Free myself from worries of the past for this is a new beginning. A new life for me.

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